today was in camp.. many things had happened..
some people created a mess.. they tried to avoid all possible problems.. and pushed all the fault to someone and that someone had no chance to say anything about it and aha.. he got the blame however..
then..
my dear din get quality sleep last night.. was having a lot of pains from her bottom rib area which she suspected.. but din turn out to be there.. as the doc said its from some muscles issues..
and hmm.. i've been thinking.. about what kind of person i am..to others.. am i a gd friend?to others.. im a bad person?to dear dear.. am i doing anything very bad??
it seems like.. i can't seem to satisfy most of the qns i stated.. and it seems that the answer i got is making my feelings bad..
and at times when i am feeling unhappy or angry about things.. it seems like i just can't get the feeling to get angry and show my temper..
but then when i feel sian or pissed off with how people handle their moods against me.. i too.. hope that other's will think about hey.. han chuan is actually trying his best too.. he didn't really did anything that kind of bad to recieve that kind of treatment from anyone right? all man have a temper i believe.. but its me that one person that controls their temper and controls their environment.. but when on gets angry and pissed off.. one has no control over anything and will only make anyone uncomfortable..
and one thing too.. try to think of how the other is thinking and feeling.. it might be a totally different story.. when you get to know.. it might be totally a different thing when it comes to how one person looks at the situation from another's shoes..
e.g.X talked to Y :hey.. rmb to complete ur revision exercise ah!!
Y replied.ok~ but then by 3 hours later..
X to Y :hey so hows everything??
Y replied.:ah~ i missed it again din think it was very possible for me to complete it..
X then said :omg why the hell did you not do your things properly!! do you not know the importance of this work? and if you had completed it and we can go do whatever we want immediately without anything to interrupt!!(decided to help out.. )
but then in the matter of fact.. X was helpin out with a temper and Y was feeling very bad..Y was thinking.. i really din think of how to complete it.. and X wasn't very satisfied with Y..
here is the story.. lets analyse.. X is unhappy.. with the fact that things will be interrupted and turns things unhappily cause of the snowball effect that X wishes to do with Y as time is a concern.
Y is feeling bad too but he can't really do anything to help the situation and can only hope that X can notice that he too is feeling bad inside hoping that he can turn the situation around gradually.
if X was willing to be more patient and try to approach in a more friendly way Y would nt have felt so bad and things can still go on at most 1 more hour or so.. there's definitely a better solution than filling yourself with anger over a time of 1 hour making both parties to get stimulated with unhappiness..
and if Y is willin to ask even further and try to communicate more about how X was feeling about it.. and try to get into deeper thoughts with X.. things might not have turn out into a nasty situation..
so. anything think what they could have done??2 things as stated above.. either person X could have told Y to do everything and communicated with Y and also not get into the temper and things still goes on as usual at most with a snowball reaction of 1 hour follow on..
or Y have to ask more about how X is thinking and feeling about everything and ask how X thinks Y could have done it better before anything could have happened..

♥Ran ♠Miki ♣Su ♦Dia @ 9:43 PM